When did I ever said that women can’t support themselves? Generalizing is simply not what I do.
Women doing it for free and fully supporting the child is like a guy selling Ferrari for free. Is it his right to do so? Yes. My point is it is also his right to demand a fair amount (or any amount) of money for his Ferrari.
The same way it’s women’s right not to demand anything. It is also their right to demand a lot. That right is currently too “regulated”. A girl can either do it for free or demand too much. Something closer to market price requires complicated procedure.
I just don’t think it’s fair for women to work hard supporting child themselves.
Man just supply sperms. Women got to go pregnant for 9 months. So it’s very natural and normal that men pays women for sex rather than the other way around. In fact, under free market, that would be the norm. There are just too many rich males wanting as many beautiful girls as possible that a hot woman can always, but NOT have to, ask for large amount of money.
I do not say that women HAVE to ask for money. You’re right. Some don’t. Some do. Either case is fine and it should be up to the woman.
Of course, women that CAN support themselves often want men that pays even higher. In fact, many males, consider women that’s not only beautiful but also smart and independent as sexy and would worth more.
If anyone is generalizing it’s feminazis. They generalize by saying that women do not want money for sex.
What I am saying is either is fine. If you support your own kid, it’s fine. Is it to your best interest? It’s up to you.
Actually your case shows the inherent problem of this. Yes you CHOSE not to demand money from your ex. Can you choose to commit to do so before marriage?
Can a woman choose to agree not to demand say more than $0, or $500/month, in child support?
If she can, then she can easily attract more attractive richer males to fertilize her eggs. The thing is she can’t and often end up with someone poor never knowing that higher quality men is within her reach. Is this what happen to you?
As far as I know it’s not enforceable by court. You can (and actually encouraged to) commit to really really silly things like life long marriage.
Yet you cannot commit basic contract, like child support. The government arbitrarily declare that man’s obligation is proportional to his capability. It’s very difficult or impossible to change that even if the women agree.
Again, it’s perfectly fine for a woman not to demand anything. It’s also women’s right to demand any amount they wish before building relationship or before conception.
It’s up to that exact woman not up to government or other men or other women’s opinion. It’s all I am trying to say. Women’s body, women’s absolute individual choice.
I think you need to understand evolutionary psychology a little bit. Let’s just say without money, any women can mate with Brad Pitt, Bill Gates, or US president. It’s far easier for girls to get guys than the other way around. It’s just the way we evolve. Men only lose sperms. So we’re always horny for hotties.
Even with money, women can still aim very high. After all capitalistic wealth means the rich are so rich, they are willing to pay a lot.
If a girl say, I don’t want to share Bill Gates, I would rather be the only one for Joe Schmoe instead, that’s her choice. Currently it’s not really a choice. Monogamy norms means she can only pick singles, and singles means low quality mates. It’s there to appease single males so they get laid too. Not to protect women.